Author Archives: Wayne Alexander

“I don’t know what to do with my wife’s ashes”

In another article from the helpful and honest Guardian serial, Adam Golightly (pseudonym), describes the challenge it is to decide what to do with someone’s ashes after a cremation. What I love about these articles is the way we are given insight into his unique journey, remembering, of course, that every person’s journey is very […]

What makes life worth living in the face of death?

In this powerful Ted talk, Dr. Lucy Kalanithi reflects on what makes life worth living and purpose, sharing the story of her late husband, Paul, a young neurosurgeon who turned to writing after his terminal cancer diagnosis. “Engaging in the full range of experience — living and dying, love and loss — is what we get […]

Replace ‘shoulds’ with ‘wants’

We’re not offended when people ask us, ‘How can you do what you do? Isn’t it really sad?’ It’s true, we see a lot of sadness and this isn’t always easy. But people are often surprised to hear that more often than now we’re frequently inspired by the amazing families that we serve and the […]

Prince Harry isn’t wrong

Sometimes I’m asked why we blog and contribute to the discussion about death and dying, as though our real job is something else. At Albany, we have a mission to help improve the whole conversation about death and dying in the UK so that people are helped to make better choices which will help them […]

How do we speak to children about grief?

I am passionate that we help children through grief and speak to children about grief in the best way possible. Sadly, the legacy of a culture which shut children away when someone died is still with us. Our experience shows that children need to be involved in age-appropriate ways, and they have a brilliant capacity to […]

Finding life in a hospice

We work closely with the team at local hospices not least because we are often serving the same families. When someone has been given a life-limiting diagnosis, it’s not uncommon for them to come to visit us to support their family in making decisions about their funeral and how they will say goodbye. We have […]


It’s a beautiful time of the year, as we see one season end and another one begins. Yesterday on a walk we took this picture, struck by how it captures the two seasons side by side. In the background is a tree, yet to blossom. In the foreground is a sign of spring – the […]